My husband is the someone that I think effectively communicates with others. When there is a problem like with a store or my children’s school, he is the one who can usually get the outcome we are looking for. He remains cool, calm, and collected. He does not raise his voice or talk derogatory but is respectful and uses facts to get to results. Even if the person is wrong in what they have done or said he does not focus on the fact that they were wrong but how to correct the situation so that we are all happy.
I would like to be able to displays his calm demeanor when he is upset. I am the hothead in the family and tend to blow things out of proportion even if I am right. He is constantly reminding my that raising my voice is not going to get what I want. I just wish I did not get as easily frustrated as I do. When I am upset I tend to trip over my words and stammer which I believe causes me to become more frustrated. My husband on the other hand always seems to have it together no matter how upset he gets. He never gets caught up in his emotions or words. He is very calm and even if he does not know what he is talking about you think he does because of his confidence.
aprilpettis 
Sep 09, 2012 @ 11:55:31
April,
It is nice to know that you and your husband complement one another and he is able to remain well-versed and calm in many situations, especially in dealing with one’s family. I, too, am learning to remain calm and to suppress my emotions in handling difficult situations. Sometimes, I let my frustrations and emotions get the best of me and although, I do not speak ill to others, I want to learn to be calm even when someone is not being so calm in speaking to me. Confidence is an important aspect of communication and is a great attribute to have in dealing with others.
Anetria
Sep 09, 2012 @ 22:33:11
April,
It sounds refreshing to say the least to have someone who can handle confrantations such as you’ve described. You didn’t have to look far. Nice post. I’m sure you will grow stronger at controlling your anger as time passes. Good Luck in this class.
Sep 11, 2012 @ 00:43:38
I liked reading your blog and hearing how much you appreciate how your husband communicates. I agree it is important to stay calm when communicating. I think that is always something that is a bit difficult for many women because we do tend to get a little emotional.
Sep 11, 2012 @ 02:09:45
April,
I think its wonderful that your husband is the calm one when dealing wit ha situation.That is so rare ,because usually the man is the hot headed one. However, like you said,it doesn’t pay to raise your voice because in the end,nothing gets accomplished